To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Never try to strike a deal with someone you find morally indignant. If you gut thinks that this person is no good, trust it, it usually is right.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
When you try to predict the future, consider that the present is here. The probability of it existing is very high, you can feel it and see it. The closer the present is to now, the higher the probability is that you can predict it.
If you are successful at one thing, then more opportunities will come your way. You will meet more people and more people open even more doors for you which lead to the manifestation of more opportunities.
When you struggle to be creative or come up with a new concept try this: Don't be afraid of failure, it can happen, it is natural to happen a lot of times but don’t let it paralyze you. Every once in a while try something new. Go on this new hiking route, take a different route with the bus, add some randomness to your routine. Lastly get off the path of the least resistance. Our brain is very energy efficient, it will try to connect the dots on things we already know. True creativity lies when we do stuff that are initially hard and then get easier with time. All things you can do now once were difficult.
Let yourself of the hook. Don't try to be perfect. Publish that project you have lying around. You will be the hardest judge on yourself. Don't let it get the best of you. There is always something which you can change or adjust.
If you are an entrepreneur here is a simple example on how to get customers on your social media page. Imagine you are running a restaurant. Print out a big sign: Do you have Instagram / Pinterest / Whatever ? Usually people will ask about it, when they do, reply that you can get a free desert if you put on your social media pager if you like it or not.
If you need something of value (e.g. a TV,a new phone or a expensive piece of clothing) wait for a couple of days or weeks (if it more expensive). This will force you to consider if you needed the item in the first place.
When you are grieving get a massage. Touch itself is analgesic for the human mind and body. Infants may day if they are not touched and taken care of.
Start to practice NVC (Non violent communication). The NVC process consists of 4 items 1. Observe 2. Feel 3. Identify needs 4. Make a request