To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Nobody is leaving happy from a negotiation if both parties have skin in the game.
Humans have two kinds of emotions. Positive and negative emotions. By nature humans are usually more sensitive to bad emotions. This is why you forget the hundreds of compliments but remember that one negative comment.
If you don't react well to your children in a given situation, ask them what you did wrong and how it made them feel. The goal is for the children to express their feelings in a safe environment.
Don't judge people, don't condemn people and also don't whine about people.
When you thing that what you are hearing is offending you. Stop and ask yourself this 1. Is it true? If yes why be upset about the truth. 2. Is it a lie? If yes why be upset about a lie.
Every mistake you make when you are working for someone or a cooperation will go on your permanent record which will follow your around. Now imagine a freelancer, he/she can make a mistake but can always try to make up for it and pick up a new client.
Every day we face endless decisions, what to eat, drink, wear, say, how to behave etc. All of that can be quite overwhelming for our minds. To prevent decision fatigue you can create a fixed routine for recurring decisions.
When you are grieving get a massage. Touch itself is analgesic for the human mind and body. Infants may day if they are not touched and taken care of.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
When you are rude to your children, acknowledge it, respect your children and be a role model. Imagine if somebody would be rude to you, how would it make you feel.