To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Resist the urge to suppress randomness. Don't create a strict schedule for everything.
Write down stuff that need to get done. Don't rely on other people to remind you about them.
Try to have an option around your choices. Don't be forced into using a particular one. On the other hand, if there is no viable alternative, don't sweat it.
When you have less, you are more antifragile to life. You have less to lose, less of a status quo to lose, less financial burdens, less psychological problems.
Here are some examples of manifestation of negative emotions: Frustration - when approaching a goal and you are blocked. Disappointment - when pursuing a goal and it doesn't work. Grief - when loosing something. Pain - marker for damage. Anxiety - marker for the possibility of damage.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
Less is more can be applied to everything, start using it more deliberately throughout your day and life.
Start to practice NVC (Non violent communication). The NVC process consists of 4 items 1. Observe 2. Feel 3. Identify needs 4. Make a request
Everything we accomplish has a price attached to it. If you are famous you will pay rumors and gossip tax. If you have more than you need or things that others desire, theft is one possible tax you may have to pay. In light of success you pay taxes in stress and problems.
I feel misunderstood is not an accurate statement. There is no feeling which is called misunderstood. You may feel anxious, frighten or any positive or negative emotion. When you have identified what you are feeling then you can also address it better.