To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Here are some examples of manifestation of negative emotions: Frustration - when approaching a goal and you are blocked. Disappointment - when pursuing a goal and it doesn't work. Grief - when loosing something. Pain - marker for damage. Anxiety - marker for the possibility of damage.
Try to limit your exposure to social media as much as you can. They are not bad. They are a tool. Tools need to be used appropriately. Don't compare yourself to others on social media, you don't know what the influencer you are following is doing to show off like that. Use social media for what they are, a tool to socialize. Leave the comparison and hierarchy for the real life.
When an adult comes into the room and a children stop playing and talking is an indicator that they might be anxious or frighten. Children that aren't anxious and well adjusted will continue playing.
Your perception of the world is based on your personality. That is why different personalities have different world views.
Find your mission and stick to it. That might be creating a family or any other cause. Pick one and make it your main focus. There are also other things that you will encounter around your mission, evaluate them but don't go down the rabbit hole.
Usually a swan is white, but once in a while a black swan comes along . This holds true for the animal but also for our society. A black swan event is a major event that changes society and the way we think about the world.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
When you are rude to your children, acknowledge it, respect your children and be a role model. Imagine if somebody would be rude to you, how would it make you feel.
Get at least 7 hours of sleep. What is considered normal ,for human beings, is from 7-9 hours of sleep. You need that much sleep in order your body and brain to be able to work at their best.
When you are grieving get a massage. Touch itself is analgesic for the human mind and body. Infants may day if they are not touched and taken care of.