To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Never try to strike a deal with someone you find morally indignant. If you gut thinks that this person is no good, trust it, it usually is right.
We usually have our focus on analyzing level of wrongness rather than needs. If my partner wants more affection and attention we are internally evaluating this as needy and dependant.
Let yourself of the hook. Don't try to be perfect. Publish that project you have lying around. You will be the hardest judge on yourself. Don't let it get the best of you. There is always something which you can change or adjust.
If you don't react well to your children in a given situation, ask them what you did wrong and how it made them feel. The goal is for the children to express their feelings in a safe environment.
Try to have an option around your choices. Don't be forced into using a particular one. On the other hand, if there is no viable alternative, don't sweat it.
Limit the notifications on your computer or phone to the ones you need. Plan chunks of time where do not disturb is enabled.
Watch out for the minority rule. Once you have 10% or more woman at a party you cannot only serve beer. Most men although will drink wine. So you only need one set of glasses if you will serve only wine.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
If you need to be somewhere at a specific time, put it on your calendar.
If you want to sell something and you are talking to an employee of a cooperation you have to think about this: The person you are talking to will not be credited with the gains of what you are selling but only the downfalls. The result is that he/she can get fired. This makes it hard to sell anything that way.