To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
When somebody says that this never happened before is no indicator that it may not happen in the future. When white swan's are observed, doesn't mean there aren't any black.
When you thing that what you are hearing is offending you. Stop and ask yourself this 1. Is it true? If yes why be upset about the truth. 2. Is it a lie? If yes why be upset about a lie.
If you need something of value (e.g. a TV,a new phone or a expensive piece of clothing) wait for a couple of days or weeks (if it more expensive). This will force you to consider if you needed the item in the first place.
Skin in the game is when somebody has both traits of an outcome. Positive outcome - reaping the benefits. Negative outcome - paying a price. You can't and shouldn't be able to transfer the risk.
Start to practice NVC (Non violent communication). The NVC process consists of 4 items 1. Observe 2. Feel 3. Identify needs 4. Make a request
Start running or biking or swimming or any other form of exercise where your heart rate is in the aerobic zone. Consider investing time into the Maffetone Method .
Get at least 7 hours of sleep. What is considered normal ,for human beings, is from 7-9 hours of sleep. You need that much sleep in order your body and brain to be able to work at their best.
Game of thrones got it right. You always have to prepare for the winter. When times are good go the extra mile and try to grow as much as possible. When they go bad you have to accept that you may not grow. The game then is to try to survive.
A lot of times you will enjoy the journey towards a goal more than the actual goal.
We usually have our focus on analyzing level of wrongness rather than needs. If my partner wants more affection and attention we are internally evaluating this as needy and dependant.